As many men do, you have probably wondered what the things women expect during sex and secretly want to happen in bed are.
The good news is that you are in the right place to learn some of the women’s secrets.
Here are five of the most common things women want in bed.
1. Be Original
All women expect you to be an expert full of new ideas about anything, and sex is not an exclusion.
Use your imagination and employ all your fantasies to deliver something new she doesn’t expect from you.
Ensure the ideas you plan to surprise her with are original, but not things you will feel sorry about later on. If you know your partner well, you must know what things she would approve of and for which she would be skeptical.
On the other hand, no one wants sex to be a routine. If you don’t experiment with new things, you wouldn’t know what she likes during sex.
Mixing it up a bit could be all she wants. Being original in the bed one way or another is a guarantee for an interesting, dynamic, and strong relationship.
Some Tips for Spicing Things Up In Bed :
Try and experiment with some new for you and her positions. Think about how to change a bit the usual environment in your bedroom by modifying it. How about wearing a new sexy or funny underwear?
Here are some fresh ideas which you can use as a cheat-sheet:
- Experiment with New Positions: Break the routine by trying positions you haven’t explored before. Even a small change can make a big difference.
- Modify Your Environment: A few tweaks to your bedroom ambiance—think dimmed lights, scented candles, or new sheets—can enhance the mood significantly.
- Change Your Attire: Surprise each other with sexy or humorous underwear. The novelty can add an element of excitement and playfulness.
- Introduce Sensory Play: Blindfolds, feathers, or soft music can awaken different senses, adding a layer of intrigue and anticipation.
- Communicate Your Fantasies: Openly sharing and exploring fantasies can bring you closer and introduce new dimensions to your intimacy.
- Role-Play Scenarios: Adopting different personas through role-play can add a fun and imaginative twist to your encounters.
- Plan Surprise Encounters: Spontaneous acts of intimacy, at unexpected times or places, can reignite the spark of early days.
- Educational Exploration: Watch or read educational content together to discover new techniques or concepts you’re both curious about.
Each tip is designed to be a small, manageable change that can lead to significant improvements in your intimate life, fostering a deeper connection and bringing a renewed sense of adventure into your relationship.
2. Be Romantic
Women expect you to be romantic in your life and bed.
The romantic things don’t necessarily involve a fancy restaurant or dinner with candles. Being romantic in bed doesn’t mean you should bring every time champagne and strawberries with cream either.
Besides, this is a cliché.
Mixing up our daily life routines with some simple, sexy romantic stuff in the bed for sure is a thing she would enjoy and appreciate.
If you can’t remember when was the last time when you bought her a bouquet or a single flower without a particular occasion, then you should take immediate action.
How often do you kiss her or when did you invite her to watch a film together?
To be romantic is one of the most important things in every relationship, and these are the simplest things to pay attention to.
The same applies to the romantics in our beds.
Some Tips to be romantic in bed:
The bedroom is usually the epicenter of our romantic relationship.
Use the ambiance light to provoke desire. For example, you can think about the ambient light and its color.
Some people prefer having sex when it’s pitch dark while others like to have some light around. If the lights in your room or by your bedside are quite bright, then you can try to use candles.
Since desire and romance are linked to your senses of smell, think about involving some romantic scenes in the bedroom.
Some fragrances are known to enhance sex appeal.
The suitable scent in the bedroom brings the mood and improves intimacy. Use romantic scents in your bedroom from time to time, and you will discover that this is one of the things she likes during sex.
Along with the scents, the music is one of the things that will help a lot to bring around some romantics.
Have you tried to put some mellow music as a background on for a romantic encounter? Pieces of pleasant, gentle, and sexy music that carries intimacy will create a romantic atmosphere around and make Her susceptible to desire.
A lot of the art of creating a romantic atmosphere in your bed is related to the bedding. Looking to add a romantic and stylish touch to your bed?
Think luxurious.
Think silk. Or satin.
She will adore to lay down in a bed covered by silk, and this feeling for sure will touch her sensual mood too.
Of course, if you choose to cover the silk bedsheets or bed pillows with red rose petals would be even better.
By using your best ideas and some sophisticated approach, you can make her feel sexy.
Spend more time teasing her with caresses and provoke her sensuality with simple things such as telling her how sexy smells or how sweet her lips are.
As her partner, you know best what she likes during sex, and one of the things is taking care of her sensitive zones.
Taste her favorite and most sexual zones and tell her how good you feel with her and how much you adore her.
3. Express yourself
Women expect you to be yourself at all times, and this includes your bed.
One of the things she really wants in bed is for you to be yourself, to express yourself and tell her what you like and how you feel.
Certainly, you love it when she moans in the bedroom? When she in bed together with you, most likely she wants you to receive pleasure too.
Women don’t like snoring in the bed, but surely they love really love a man who is going to moan and scream when he feels good.
She would love to talk to her after having sex, most of the time, even if it is for a short time.
Some Tips to express yourself in bed:
She would like to see you enjoying it.
Next time when you are in bed together and have a good time, be vocal about how you are feeling.
Many women know how to read your mind, but she needs to hear it from you, at least from time to time.
This reassures her that what she is doing is good for you and makes her feel good.
She loves you to speak to her. The conversations after sex would boost confidence that you feel good with her and make a big difference in your sex life!
Talk to her after the love game, even if it is for a short time.
Sometimes you can tell her when you liked the sex with her. Sometimes you can tell her a joke. Sometimes you can tell her if even you didn’t like something in your sex game.
Just choose the right tone, mood, and moment(!).
4.Surprise her
Women expect men to be surprised with good things now and then, if not every day.
One thing a man can do to spice up the bedroom experience is to surprise the woman of his dreams.
At least from time to time.
Surprisingly, someone you know could sometimes be difficult, especially if you know your partner for a while.
Don’t worry. Just think outside the box.
Still, there is a lot to be suggested in this direction, so check out how you can surprise her in the bed and see which ones will you be brave enough to try.
Some Tips to Surprise her in bed:
Schedule a date night to have sex.
This is one of the good things you can surprise her with.
How to organize the date I leave it completely to your imagination and understanding, but every woman would be excited to have a sex date with the one she loves from time to time.
Of course, “the date” should be organized in a way to be something different than just going out and eating in McDonald’s.
If this is not a routine for you, you could rent a sexy movie and watch it together.
Then you can add some more surprises to the bed.
Get some Sex Toys.
Sex toys are among those things women want in the bed.
The best thing about sex toys is they help you to enhance sexual pleasure and desire.
Switch up your usual sex routine her with something different and exciting.
Using sex gadgets during your foreplay and after is one thing that will surely make her happy.
Some of us don’t talk much about these but bear in mind that women love using sex toys sometimes, so consider incorporating a vibrator or another sex toy in your bed experience and seeing the difference.
Talk dirty to her.
Dirty talk can turn the woman you love on, and she will also be pleasantly surprised that you’ve added that sweet something.
Telling her something contrasting from time to time is a major turn on, which will spice up your activities in the bedroom.
Using compliments and saying how hot and sexy she is a great thing, but sometimes women want to hear wording, which sounds slightly different.
And sexually adventurous.
Dirty talks are one of those romantic encounters women adore and expect to hear from time to time, but most of them are shy enough to talk about it.
Be brave and give it a try sometimes because this is one thing women really want in bed.
Be a bad guy.
She won’t share this with you, but If you’re trying to spice things up in bed, using a little “rough stuff” can get things hot and spicy.
The choice is very personal, but such a sex experience can be compelling, so you should try that up in bed.
You don’t want to do things that kill the mood or seem very aggressive and awkward.
Rough sex isn’t for everyone, but for the ones who enjoy it, though, it can increase the passion and the joy of sex when done well.
If you haven’t watched 50 Shades of Grey yet, then you should probably do it. Maybe organize the event so you can watch the film together?….
Try new positions in bed.
One of the things every woman really wants in bed is to try something interesting and different from time to time.
She is probably fancy you two spicing things up between the sheets so that you can surprise her with new sex exercises.
You can experiment and try some new sex positions from Kamasutra or Tantra. Get creative and let her get the sex challenge because most women really want to try something new and pleasing in bed.
Put fancy clothing
Apart from the Kamasutra sex positions and other tips on how to surprise her in a bed shared previously, you can surprise her by playing roles.
Women like experiments in bed, so why don’t they experiment with fancy clothing that makes her happy?
Even getting into funny underwear will make a big difference, and the difference is what she really wants in bed.
5. Take the Initiative
Most women expect you to take the initiative.
This is how mother nature has created us.
The woman you love won’t tell you what’s running through her mind, but I can.
Take the task in your hands and be enterprising in organizing and spicing her bed experience and the things with the sex up.
As an ingenious as possible, I mean, because this is what she expects from you, and she really would like to see in your bed.
If you take the initiative, if not always, then most of the time, this will provoke her to compete with you and try to do the same.
As a result, your efforts will bring you to new dimensions of sex experiences and be the ticket to happiness in bed for both of you.
Some Tips on how to take the initiative in bed:
Tease her.
Playing with or without expectations puts you right in the driver’s seat.
Teasing is a form of domination or stimulating different erogenous zones without being in a hurry to the actual sex game that will drive her crazy.
All women love teasing, and this is among one of the things she really wants in bed. You know well what she likes during sex, so finding a way to tease her before this shouldn’t be difficult.
Get her out of the bedroom.
Women like sex are comfortable and intimate, such as their beds, but sex outside of the bedroom could be fascinating and appealing.
Having sex in a different place is a big turn that inflames the passion and enhances the sensual mood.
Use all your senses and think outside the box to create something more sophisticated for her than a romantic sex game in your bedroom.
You can explore the capabilities that other rooms in your place provide, starting with the most usual ones, such as the kitchen or the bathroom.
Sex on the table, under the shower, or in the tub might sound standard but surely will make a difference.
Changing the occasional atmosphere is one of the things she would appreciate. Moreover, if you are brave enough, you shouldn’t get limited by your own place walls.
An experiment in some discrete and not so discrete places such as the bathroom of a restaurant, the beach, or her parents’ house.
Trust me; there are plenty of off-the-wall and unusual places that can be used for mind-blowing sex out there.
Do something different together after sex.
After we mentioned what she expects from you in the bed and what she likes during sex now, it’s time to mention the time after the love game.
The routines kill the passion, so occasionally, you both can try something more special and emotional rather than roll over and go to sleep straight after sex. One of the things women really want in bed is to get some cuddles and attention after the love game.
Sex can be exhausting, but you can try taking a shower together, before sleep, for instance.
Another option that certainly is worth a try is sharing a drink, a piece of fruit, or chocolates. Sharing is caring and brings joyfulness.
Let’s Talk about Sex
Men often wonder what women want, especially when we talk about sex.
Every woman has hopes, dreams, and fantasies about lovemaking that are secretly kept deep inside her. Surely your favorite woman also has hers, which she has not revealed.
This fact makes it difficult to find out what she really expects from you in the bed.
You know best what she likes during sex, but do you know what she really dreams of?
Knowing five of the most common things every woman wants in bed will help you to find it out.
Then you can inject more excitement and feelings into your sex lives.